14 Signs of Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. Ask yourself if any of the following statements ring true

1. You try to convince yourself that the treatment you receive is not that bad or that you are too sensitive.

2. You are afraid of speaking up or expressing your emotions. You have learned that sharing your opinion usually makes you feel worse in the end, so you stay silent instead.

3. You are convinced that everyone around you thinks you are "strange," "crazy," or "unstable," just like the person who is gaslighting you says you are. This makes you feel trapped and isolated.

4. The person who gaslights you says words make you feel like you are wrong, unintelligent, inadequate, or insane. Sometimes, you even find yourself repeating these statements to yourself.

5. For instance, you feel like you are weak and passive, and that you used to be stronger and more assertive.

6. The behavior of the person gaslighting you confuses you, almost as if they are Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

7. The person minimizes hurtful behaviors or words by saying “I was just joking" or "you need thicker skin."

8. You feel like something terrible is about to happen when you are around this person. This may include feeling threatened and on edge without knowing why.

9. You feel the need to apologize all the time for what you do or who you are.

10. You feel like you are never "good enough." You try to live up to the expectations and demands of others, even if they are unreasonable.

11. You frequently wonder if you accurately remember the details of past events. You may have even stopped trying to share what you remember for fear that it is wrong.

12. You apologize all the time for what you do or who you are, assuming people are let down by you or that you have somehow made a mistake.

13. You wonder if there’s something fundamentally wrong with you. In other words, you worry that you are not well mentally.

14. You would rather allow your partner, friend, or family member to make decisions for you and avoid decision-making altogether.

If you identify with any of these signs of gaslighting, it's important that you seek professional help right away.

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